Release the Binds
Many of us suffer from feeling constricted. Our lives feel tight, there’s not enough time. Or our bodies feel tight and clenched up in different areas (head, throat, stomach, shoulders). The constriction can show up as intrusive anxiety, anger that takes us over, a feeling of doom or…
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Corralling the Angry Bull: Handling Rage Like a Pro
Your dad tosses you a hand towel, and you explode, “Quit f*ing trying to control me!” You leave a cabinet open, your partner screams, “I’m sick of your GD disrespect!” Yep, sometimes tiny things set off big rage. That’s a sign that something deeper might be going on.…
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Using EMDR and Talk Therapy Together
Both EMDR and Talk Therapy have much to offer clients. “But how can I choose?” You don’t have to! I enjoy using them both. When used together, the combination can be very effective, offering you a robust, multi-faceted approach to better understanding and untangling your challenges. Talk therapy…
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Why Is It So Hard to Stop Doom Scrolling?
Every night it’s the same experience. It’s late, I need to sleep, but maybe I can read just one more Reddit post – that’ll satisfy my “itch.” Just one more! Wait, now just one more. Okay, now I’ll turn it off, but maybe just one more! Aaaaack, I…
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When Someone Wants You to Fix Their Feelings II – Responding
So how do we respond when someone says things like, “You’re making me mad!” “You obviously don’t care if I’m sad,”or, “If you cared about me, you would…”? What can we do or say to during such a storm of feelings without getting swept away? This follows my…
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When Someone Blames You For Their Feelings – The Mindset
Earlier we talked about how you are not responsible for other people’s feelings. But how do you respond when someone wants you to take that responsibility? When they blame you for their feelings or demand that you fix their feelings? When they say things like, “You are making…
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For Those Who Are Exhausted
I was exhausted. I was so tired of “working toward my goals,” tired of “being productive,” tired of being cheerful and engaged all the time, tired of striving, tired of acting like I’m strong and can handle anything, tired of solving problems, tired of the persona I’d created.…
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Feelings – A Primer
I have a friend that doesn’t like feelings (emotions). He finds them uncomfortable and pointless. He’d rather skip feelings and just get on with his rational business. But I love feelings! I think feelings can actually be really helpful to us. Feelings are our friends, and here’s why.…
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Pixar’s Elio and the Challenge of Vulnerability
Spoiler Alert! Major plot points revealed. Pixar’s new movie, Elio, is about a boy who ventures into outer space, meeting aliens and getting into a ‘good vs. evil’ battle to save his alien friends’ world. What can epic battles against violent warlords have to teach us about vulnerability?…
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Partnership Hack: Teaming Up Against the Problem
Here’s a dynamic I see a lot with couples. The partners want different things and get angry at each other for not agreeing or giving them what they want. But instead of blaming each other, what if you could redefine the problem and then team up against it?…
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