Do you find yourself getting irritated about “small things”? Or overreacting and having big feelings to things you logically know should be so upsetting? Hair trigger anger? These could be signs that something deeper is going on. Let’s look. I’ve shared this example before: I was cleaning the…

How many of us “live in fear”? Fear of not living up to potential, or of letting others down. Fear of not being productive, which means we’re really a “bad” person. Fear of “getting caught” or being rejected or not fitting in. We’d better “act right” or else!…

“Let me rub it and make it feel better.” That was my dad’s go-to when I had a bump of a scrape as a kid. And it worked! Perfect first aid. Buuuuut, as life goes, health challenges get more plentiful and more complicated, and Rub-it-and-make-it-feel-better doesn’t cover the…

Ever have the experience of going from calm to enraged in a flash? Fast and Furious, zero to sixty in a blink. Rage takes over, and before you realize what’s happening, you’re in the storm. Here’s what may be going on, and what you can do about it.…

Shout out to my frinz dealing with cancer. In my experience, a cancer diagnosis and treatment is a whole other thing. It brings a lot of big and subtle feelings and seems to demand all our attention. Let’s talk about it. What do we hold on to when…

OMG the Holidays! Our nervous system is on high alert! The disruption of our regular routine, prolonged contact with people who are challenging for us, the stress of ‘celebrating.’ It’s all too much! Here’s a lil sumpn sumpn that can help you get through the most stressful moments.…

I often ask my clients, “What are you noticing inside yourself in this very moment?” I believe this inquiry yields wonderful information that can help us know ourselves, get to the heart of the matter, and ultimately help us to let go of anxiety, sadness, and feeling powerless.…

When a couple is in conflict, there are often many, many pieces in play. Each partner brings multiple issues, desires, needs, past experiences, maybe built-up resentments. When, in the heat of the moment, all of those pieces want acknowledgment at the same time, the conversation can get clogged.…

So your partner is upset and venting to you. You want to support them and help them through their upset as best you can. But what if you disagree with their complaint in the first place? What if you think they’re totally wrong for being upset? Last time…

Your partner (friend, family member, co-worker) is upset and complaining to you. You try to help, letting them know it’s not that bad, or offering advice, or saying, “Don’t worry, you got this!” Now they’re even more upset! And they’re mad at you! What just happened? It can…